Aida Manduley, LICSW

Freaking Out? You Need a Self-Rescue Kit

Aida Manduley — Thu, 28 Oct 2021 21:10:25 +0000

What is a self-rescue kit for when you’re freaking out? A self-rescue kit is a box or bag where you keep items that can help you when you’re not doing well or just need help shifting your physiological and/or emotional state. This is where science also comes in–applying what we know about how emotions work, … Continue reading Freaking Out? You Need a Self-Rescue Kit

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How To Feel Your Feelings And Why You Should Try

Aida Manduley — Thu, 14 Nov 2019 11:23:01 +0000

Co-written by Aida Manduley and Anna Stern You’re cozy in your bed, drifting off to sleep when a voice calls out: “I’m scared! I need you!” You leap out of bed, heart pounding, and rush into the child’s room. He is sitting up in bed, his face stained with tears, cuddling a stuffed walrus. “Sweetie,” … Continue reading How To Feel Your Feelings And Why You Should Try

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What Kind of “Relationship Suitcase” Packer Are You?

Aida Manduley — Sat, 30 Mar 2019 20:04:40 +0000

This series is titled “Electrons, Suitcases, and Mixing Boards: New Tools To Get The Relationships You Want.” It’s co-written by Aida Manduley and Anna Stern. This is part 1 of 4. The Power of Language Humans are deeply complex creatures. We don’t generally relish being reduced to less than the sum of our parts. Yet … Continue reading What Kind of “Relationship Suitcase” Packer Are You?

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Holocaust Remembrance & Recommitting to Resistance

Aida Manduley — Fri, 13 Apr 2018 21:21:57 +0000

Content-warning: discussions of the Holocaust and genocide overall. If you want to skip that, jump to the “So Where Do We Go From Here?” section. Learning About the Holocaust I heard about the Holocaust as a child because I was raised under the Jehova’s Witness faith & JWs were persecuted and rounded up too (though … Continue reading Holocaust Remembrance & Recommitting to Resistance

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A Queer Latinx Mourning After The Orlando Shooting

Aida Manduley — Thu, 07 Jul 2016 16:04:07 +0000

I was back in my homeland of Puerto Rico—the first time in two years—for a professional conference when I heard the news about the Orlando shooting. I sat around a table, ordering pancakes as big as my face, surrounded by fellow members of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network. We ate, talked shop, and … Continue reading A Queer Latinx Mourning After The Orlando Shooting

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12 Ways To Celebrate Trans Day of Visibility Year Round

Aida Manduley — Thu, 31 Mar 2016 22:39:35 +0000

This post has been updated in 2019. If you didn’t know, today is Trans Day of Visibility, started in 2010 by Rachel Crandall and now spearheaded by Trans Student Educational Resources [ETA: the new stand-alone TDOV website lives here]. Unlike Trans Day of Remembrance, a day of mourning, this is a date for celebration, recognition, … Continue reading 12 Ways To Celebrate Trans Day of Visibility Year Round

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3 Things I Unexpectedly Learned From Jehovah’s Witnesses to Honor Martin Luther King Jr.

Aida Manduley — Tue, 19 Jan 2016 14:44:12 +0000

Many people know Jehovah’s Witnesses as “those people who come to your door to talk about the teachings of God and aren’t Mormons.” You may also know Jehovah’s Witnesses as “those people who don’t accept blood transfusions or celebrate holidays, including birthdays.” Growing up, I was part of their world—raised within this minority religion on the predominantly Catholic island of Puerto Rico. … Continue reading 3 Things I Unexpectedly Learned From Jehovah’s Witnesses to Honor Martin Luther King Jr.

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David Bowie: Time to Mourn or Call Out?

Aida Manduley — Tue, 12 Jan 2016 07:38:03 +0000

Every other week, I co-lead an all-gender process and support group. Last night, one of our topics of discussion was, of course, David Bowie. Some of the people in the room felt displaced, distraught by his death. In this intergenerational space we held those who grew up knowing David Bowie was a big deal already … Continue reading David Bowie: Time to Mourn or Call Out?

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Got Feelings About Non-Monogamy? Time To Share!

Aida Manduley — Sat, 19 Sep 2015 18:00:53 +0000

Update: Since this event passed, you can search the archive of the Tweets and conversation here. The chat was on FIRE, and the amount of responses definitely gave us all a finger workout. Non-monogamy can be a tricky beast, and I want you to tell me what you think about it. Join me at 3 PM … Continue reading Got Feelings About Non-Monogamy? Time To Share!

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Stop Saying “Poly” When You Mean “Polyamorous”

Aida Manduley — Tue, 01 Sep 2015 21:14:59 +0000

Please read the full article before commenting. This post is primarily meant to explore the confused, defensive, and sometimes outright racist/sexist/etc. reactions to a call-to-action around language use in the polyamorous community. The specific linguistic issue is concretely addressed in the final section. Doesn’t it suck when someone tells you to stop using a word … Continue reading Stop Saying “Poly” When You Mean “Polyamorous”

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